Gratitude is a powerful force that shapes our lives in profound ways. While we often are told to express our gratitude to others, receiving gratitude has an equal importance and more significant impact. The act of graciously accepting appreciation can create a ripple effect of positivity that not only benefits us individually but also contributes to the well-being of our relationships and communities.
In his podcast The Science of Gratitude & How to Build a Gratitude Practice, Dr. Huberman discussed how the science of gratitude, shown in 2 peer-reviewed studies, has tremendous positive effects on mental and physical health. He explains, however, that most commonly used gratitude practices (e.g., gratitude lists) are ineffective. Instead, one of the key elements of highly effective gratitude practices from the literature is receiving gratitude rather than giving it. These studies showed that receiving gratitude is the most powerful way to activate our circuits for gratitude and raise our serotonin and the oxytocin system.
The Gift of Connection
When we receive gratitude from others, we are essentially accepting a gift that strengthens the bonds of connection. By acknowledging and appreciating the gratitude extended towards us, we validate the efforts and emotions of the person expressing thanks. This simple act fosters a sense of connection and deepens the quality of our relationships.
Boost to Self-Esteem
Accepting gratitude can be a powerful boost to our self-esteem. It reaffirms our worth and the positive impact we have on those around us. Recognizing and internalizing the appreciation from others can counteract self-doubt and fuel a positive self-image. It serves as a reminder that our actions, no matter how small, can make a difference in someone else’s life.
Fostering a Culture of Appreciation
The power of receiving gratitude extends beyond individual interactions. When we embrace appreciation, we contribute to the creation of a culture of gratitude. This culture has the potential to transform entire social circles, workplaces, and communities. People are more likely to express gratitude openly when they feel that their appreciation is welcomed and valued. Thus, the simple act of receiving gratitude becomes a catalyst for a more positive and appreciative environment. So, for example, when we sat down to enjoy our Thanksgiving dinner, we first started by saying what we appreciate about not only this season, but what we felt about one another. This shifted the entire feel of the meal from telling “one-up” stories to what we had in common and how we felt about each other. Everyone left feeling an elevation in their mood!
Encouraging Open Communication
Accepting gratitude encourages open communication. It creates an atmosphere where people feel comfortable expressing their feelings and acknowledging the contributions of others. This open exchange of gratitude enhances the overall communication within relationships and promotes a sense of mutual support and understanding.
Building Resilience
Receiving gratitude can also contribute to building emotional resilience. It reminds us of the positive aspects of our actions and reinforces our ability to overcome challenges. In times of difficulty, the memory of past expressions of gratitude can serve as a source of strength and motivation.
Practicing Mindfulness
Being open to receiving gratitude requires mindfulness – an awareness of the present moment and an openness to positive experiences. Mindful reception of gratitude allows us to savor the positive emotions associated with appreciation and deepen our connection to the present.
In conclusion, the power of receiving gratitude is not merely about acknowledging kind words; it is about internalizing the good that others see in us. We tend to see only the negative or bad in ourselves, but when others share how we’ve impacted them, we become more in touch with the parts of our person that need to be celebrated. So, let’s open our hearts to receive gratitude, grace, and appreciation from others; in turn, we will feel our spirits lift and, as a result, give acceptance and empathy to others who need those relational nutrients as well. If you’d like to experience more of that from others, join one of our Process Growth Groups! Please contact Gregg at the Makin Institute for NeuroChange to explore how
